“You’re not allowed to get angry! No crying!” Yuck. Those are words from some of my less memorable moments as a parent. As much as I was learning about my own emotions as an adult, learning with others about the value of expression, in parallel I was not always the best at it at home. … Continue reading Do you allow emotions in your communication?
Are you in Winnipeg on the evening of November 28? Come join me for a FREE seminar on communication and conflict! As part of the "What about...???" discussion series at Church of The Way, I will be facilitating a session on something we can all learn to do better. We all talk. We all listen. … Continue reading Communication & Conflict Seminar!
You have an opportunity to be shaped by the moments and days throughout your life. The alternative can destructive. 30. 30. 1. 18. What? Those are the dates over this past week that I reflected on because they impact me. And in turn, they impact the systems in which I am a part. Each one … Continue reading Be Shaped
"Everyone has a plan 'til they get punched in the mouth." (Mike Tyson) That was one of my favourite lines from a conference I took in a few years ago. The speaker shared about how many people did not enjoy the politics of the organization, but came on staff, trained, but then threw up their … Continue reading Help people be their best
Musings on what I have learnt from being in a family: Don’t sweat the small stuff; Forgiveness covers all kinds of wrongs; No one can cut you deeper than those in your own home; Appreciation and approval are important things; Blood runs deep; Everyone else is normal and my parents are crazy! (Youth reference) What … Continue reading We Are Family?
I just read this disturbing article regarding a band teacher in BC: Delta private school band teacher suspended after telling student to "go kill yourself, it won't matter anyway" People say stupid things all the time. Sometimes there is more weight behind them than others. A teacher telling a kid they can go kill themselves; … Continue reading Words carry power, use them wisely
Do you bring clarity to your situation? We all speak in code. It just happens when we become familiar, feel accepted, and develop our own little culture. Each setting, if observed closely, has a language and a set of mannerisms, and that brings unwritten expectations of participants. The sooner you admit that you are part … Continue reading Clarify what you mean!
"You believe in a book that has talking animals, wizards, witches, demons, sticks turning into snakes, burning bushes, food falling from the sky, people walking on water, and all sorts of magical, absurd and primitive stories, and you say that we are the ones that need help?" –Mark Twain He forgot the part about a … Continue reading Easter and life after Sunday
That's the classic fine print on the bottom of the box of many an electronic device! This came to mind as a speaker at a recent gathering had trouble with his microphone. Every few sentences the sound would disappear and he would have to make a joke about it. It grew uncomfortable until he finally … Continue reading Batteries Not Included
You may have noticed this title before. It's the name of the workshop I facilitated in 2 communities this past month. And I think it's pretty awesome, but I may be biased. As the tagline suggests, it's all about helping people develop healthy relationships within their families. I would extend that to all levels of … Continue reading Living Better Together!
"If you don't mind my asking, how old are you?" This type of question used to cause me far more stress and identity defensiveness than it does now. Being the youngest born, there can be the attraction towards defending yourself for your piece of the pie. Smart enough, loud enough, opinion above the rest, etc. … Continue reading How old are you?
(A little departure from my usual posts, this is the meditation I am sharing tonight at Church of The Way to start Lent. Enjoy!) Why Ash Wednesday? Well, because it follows Shrove Tuesday of course! Mardi Gras, Fat Tuesday, Pancake Tuesday, whichever you prefer. That was the day you cleansed your household of any hindrances … Continue reading Why Ash Wednesday?