Thank you for your custom!

Are you familiar with that term? I am thankful for groups like Pioneer Camp Manitoba, who have made me part of their custom. Being a part of various conversations with their staff allows me to speak into their ministry personally. I care about them and their work, because the relationship grows deeper every time we … Continue reading Thank you for your custom!

Assessments are a good thing!

I had a great time walking the Westwood group through their ministry assessment! I am blessed to be part of your growth as a group. Here are some thoughts on the assessment process I provided to the group at the end. I believe they are relevant to anyone in an assessment situation, but especially within … Continue reading Assessments are a good thing!

Humble Communication

"Lord have mercy, Christ have mercy" I used to absolutely hate singing this song in church. It still makes me cringe. But for some reason I've been humming it a lot this Advent season. The song is based on a comparison Jesus makes between the postures of 2 people while praying. "Thanks for not making … Continue reading Humble Communication

Thanks for communicating!

Thanks to Church of The Way for letting me be part of your desire to communicate! November has definitely been a month of communication! Last week I had the opportunity to share some tools, engage in some helpful exercises, and discuss action steps going forward. It was great to have a variety of generations share … Continue reading Thanks for communicating!

Do you allow emotions in your communication?

“You’re not allowed to get angry! No crying!” Yuck. Those are words from some of my less memorable moments as a parent. As much as I was learning about my own emotions as an adult, learning with others about the value of expression, in parallel I was not always the best at it at home. … Continue reading Do you allow emotions in your communication?

Communication & Conflict Seminar!

Are you in Winnipeg on the evening of November 28? Come join me for a FREE seminar on communication and conflict! As part of the "What about...???" discussion series at Church of The Way, I will be facilitating a session on something we can all learn to do better. We all talk. We all listen. … Continue reading Communication & Conflict Seminar!

Are you thankful?

"Remember to say thank you!" "Gratitude is the best attitude!" "Give thanks with a grateful heart..." It might be very Canadian of us in general, but today is probably the only day we get to say 'Thank you!' too many times without anyone noticing. Canadians on the whole are known for our courtesy, and being … Continue reading Are you thankful?

Words carry power, use them wisely

I just read this disturbing article regarding a band teacher in BC: Delta private school band teacher suspended after telling student to "go kill yourself, it won't matter anyway" People say stupid things all the time. Sometimes there is more weight behind them than others. A teacher telling a kid they can go kill themselves; … Continue reading Words carry power, use them wisely

Clarify what you mean!

Do you bring clarity to your situation? We all speak in code. It just happens when we become familiar, feel accepted, and develop our own little culture. Each setting, if observed closely, has a language and a set of mannerisms, and that brings unwritten expectations of participants. The sooner you admit that you are part … Continue reading Clarify what you mean!

From one passive-aggressive to another

It's one of the banes of church leadership. But yes, it is everywhere. People using indirect tactics to communicate thoughts and emotions, but not verbalise honestly, usually to avoid conflict. Brushing people off. Muffled responses. Attention focused on only certain people. Fake apathy in dialogue. Not responding to messages. Pretending to be good, but really … Continue reading From one passive-aggressive to another

Do you suffer from ‘contemptible behaviour’?

"You may have heard that I'm a bit of an a**hole, and I'm not denying it!" (Quote from a new general manager being introduced) This term is used often nowadays, both in lighthearted contexts and as a source of pride for people who suffer from 'contemptible behaviour'. (Source: English Language & Usage) I like that … Continue reading Do you suffer from ‘contemptible behaviour’?

Thank you Pauingassi!

Thank you Pauingassi! This week I had the opportunity of spending a few days here sharing my workshop, 'Living Better Together'. It's all about knowing yourself, better communication, and establishing boundaries through values. There were great conversations and many laughs, and I appreciate our time together! These are important topics to discuss as we build … Continue reading Thank you Pauingassi!