Are you thankful?

"Remember to say thank you!" "Gratitude is the best attitude!" "Give thanks with a grateful heart..." It might be very Canadian of us in general, but today is probably the only day we get to say 'Thank you!' too many times without anyone noticing. Canadians on the whole are known for our courtesy, and being … Continue reading Are you thankful?

Words carry power, use them wisely

I just read this disturbing article regarding a band teacher in BC: Delta private school band teacher suspended after telling student to "go kill yourself, it won't matter anyway" People say stupid things all the time. Sometimes there is more weight behind them than others. A teacher telling a kid they can go kill themselves; … Continue reading Words carry power, use them wisely

Clarify what you mean!

Do you bring clarity to your situation? We all speak in code. It just happens when we become familiar, feel accepted, and develop our own little culture. Each setting, if observed closely, has a language and a set of mannerisms, and that brings unwritten expectations of participants. The sooner you admit that you are part … Continue reading Clarify what you mean!

From one passive-aggressive to another

It's one of the banes of church leadership. But yes, it is everywhere. People using indirect tactics to communicate thoughts and emotions, but not verbalise honestly, usually to avoid conflict. Brushing people off. Muffled responses. Attention focused on only certain people. Fake apathy in dialogue. Not responding to messages. Pretending to be good, but really … Continue reading From one passive-aggressive to another

Do you suffer from ‘contemptible behaviour’?

"You may have heard that I'm a bit of an a**hole, and I'm not denying it!" (Quote from a new general manager being introduced) This term is used often nowadays, both in lighthearted contexts and as a source of pride for people who suffer from 'contemptible behaviour'. (Source: English Language & Usage) I like that … Continue reading Do you suffer from ‘contemptible behaviour’?

Thank you Pauingassi!

Thank you Pauingassi! This week I had the opportunity of spending a few days here sharing my workshop, 'Living Better Together'. It's all about knowing yourself, better communication, and establishing boundaries through values. There were great conversations and many laughs, and I appreciate our time together! These are important topics to discuss as we build … Continue reading Thank you Pauingassi!

Do you need a chairperson?

You might. I asked this of a friend recently regarding a personal group I was working with, wondering if this role just might be essential in all areas of life. I hate being managed, it goes with my personality and leadership style, so I was a little sheepish when I asked. He liked the idea, … Continue reading Do you need a chairperson?

Thank you Spartans!

Another great workshop with the Trinity Western University women's basketball team is in the books! To think, our time was nearly cut in half due to a delayed flight. But isn't that often how the best laid plans usually go? We have the perfect formula set in motion, and then all the variables of life … Continue reading Thank you Spartans!

Is work like family?

A friend shared with me his love of knives, specifically, the legendary Buck knives. If you go to their website, buy a product, or just sign up for regular emails, you will get the 'family intro'. It is a promise of their integrity, pride in their product, and their claim to an outstanding warranty. What … Continue reading Is work like family?

Are you making waves?

Have you ever considered radio waves in your home? I am not trying to worry you, but they are everywhere. And they are not alone. There are slower moving waves you create in your kitchen that ripple right through your body. Every time you pick up your cell phone and put it next to your … Continue reading Are you making waves?

How do you reach an agreement?

Conflict is a natural part of the human condition. What we do with it sometimes requires something beyond ourselves. The problem with how we approach conflict is that too often it is dressed in negative thought. When we only see conflict as an unnatural part of our existence, and one which only occurs in an … Continue reading How do you reach an agreement?

Getting a handle on conflict

This post comes out of a number of conversations I have witnessed recently. Conflict seems to be a natural or even default state of being in much public discourse. As a generalization, we just do not handle it well. (As strange as this may be for a last week of summer blog, I think it … Continue reading Getting a handle on conflict