Be Shaped

You have an opportunity to be shaped by the moments and days throughout your life. The alternative can destructive. 30. 30. 1. 18. What? Those are the dates over this past week that I reflected on because they impact me. And in turn, they impact the systems in which I am a part. Each one … Continue reading Be Shaped

Become Aware

"I am not here to speak to you from all my success stories or best moments. I share with you where I got it wrong." That was an introduction from one of my most memorable training sessions. The instructor was not one of my favourites, but much of what he said was the most memorable. … Continue reading Become Aware

Be Positive

Don't look for everything around you to create a positive outlook. Don't expect others to make you have a good outlook. Make a positive approach to everything in life a habit.

Help people be their best

"Everyone has a plan 'til they get punched in the mouth." (Mike Tyson) That was one of my favourite lines from a conference I took in a few years ago. The speaker shared about how many people did not enjoy the politics of the organization, but came on staff, trained, but then threw up their … Continue reading Help people be their best

Getting to a Great Spot

It is great to be in a great spot. When you can claim resiliency. When you do not know the future but can hope for the best. When you feel a sense of purpose. When you are emotionally centred. When you are sure of your identity. My last blog post was all about ‘plan B’; … Continue reading Getting to a Great Spot

When Plan ‘B’ is your only option!

The only thing that is constant is change. That quote from Heraclitus, an ancient Greek philosopher, causes many to stumble. No one really likes change, even those who consider themselves change agents. Change is inevitable and destabilizes us from what we consider to be the norm. When we destabilize we are called into action to … Continue reading When Plan ‘B’ is your only option!

Play till the end

"I play till the clock hits zero" This was Stefon Diggs' remark on his amazing TD catch at the end of the NFC Divisional championship game back in 2018. It was one of my favourite football moments, followed up by one of my favourite sports quotes. It makes sense, or it should anyway, but it … Continue reading Play till the end

Happy graduation! Now keep going…

Yes, that tweet is relevant to the title of this post. I celebrated 2 different graduations this week, for 2 sons at 2 different places in life. They were emotional, celebratory, and marked both an end and a beginning. High school graduation is one of our few rites of passage left in society. So we … Continue reading Happy graduation! Now keep going…

We Are Family?

Musings on what I have learnt from being in a family: Don’t sweat the small stuff; Forgiveness covers all kinds of wrongs; No one can cut you deeper than those in your own home; Appreciation and approval are important things; Blood runs deep; Everyone else is normal and my parents are crazy! (Youth reference) What … Continue reading We Are Family?

Words carry power, use them wisely

I just read this disturbing article regarding a band teacher in BC: Delta private school band teacher suspended after telling student to "go kill yourself, it won't matter anyway" People say stupid things all the time. Sometimes there is more weight behind them than others. A teacher telling a kid they can go kill themselves; … Continue reading Words carry power, use them wisely

Clarify what you mean!

Do you bring clarity to your situation? We all speak in code. It just happens when we become familiar, feel accepted, and develop our own little culture. Each setting, if observed closely, has a language and a set of mannerisms, and that brings unwritten expectations of participants. The sooner you admit that you are part … Continue reading Clarify what you mean!

From one passive-aggressive to another

It's one of the banes of church leadership. But yes, it is everywhere. People using indirect tactics to communicate thoughts and emotions, but not verbalise honestly, usually to avoid conflict. Brushing people off. Muffled responses. Attention focused on only certain people. Fake apathy in dialogue. Not responding to messages. Pretending to be good, but really … Continue reading From one passive-aggressive to another