Have you signed up to receive this awesome blog? Maybe you had me come in for some training or a discussion on future things and would like to stay up to date? And of course, you would like to receive the occasional free thing? (No, not stuffed animals, more like help with your life and … Continue reading Get more cool stuff from me!
Well, not everything went exactly as planned, but rarely does it in life. I came to talk about communication and conflict, but the conversations outside of the sessions will be what I will remember most. We all have so much to learn when it comes to communicating. It is not restricted to one place or … Continue reading Thanks for having me Little Grand Rapids!
Are you familiar with that term? I am thankful for groups like Pioneer Camp Manitoba, who have made me part of their custom. Being a part of various conversations with their staff allows me to speak into their ministry personally. I care about them and their work, because the relationship grows deeper every time we … Continue reading Thank you for your custom!
I had a great time walking the Westwood group through their ministry assessment! I am blessed to be part of your growth as a group. Here are some thoughts on the assessment process I provided to the group at the end. I believe they are relevant to anyone in an assessment situation, but especially within … Continue reading Assessments are a good thing!
"Lord have mercy, Christ have mercy" I used to absolutely hate singing this song in church. It still makes me cringe. But for some reason I've been humming it a lot this Advent season. The song is based on a comparison Jesus makes between the postures of 2 people while praying. "Thanks for not making … Continue reading Humble Communication
Thanks to Church of The Way for letting me be part of your desire to communicate! November has definitely been a month of communication! Last week I had the opportunity to share some tools, engage in some helpful exercises, and discuss action steps going forward. It was great to have a variety of generations share … Continue reading Thanks for communicating!
“You’re not allowed to get angry! No crying!” Yuck. Those are words from some of my less memorable moments as a parent. As much as I was learning about my own emotions as an adult, learning with others about the value of expression, in parallel I was not always the best at it at home. … Continue reading Do you allow emotions in your communication?
Are you in Winnipeg on the evening of November 28? Come join me for a FREE seminar on communication and conflict! As part of the "What about...???" discussion series at Church of The Way, I will be facilitating a session on something we can all learn to do better. We all talk. We all listen. … Continue reading Communication & Conflict Seminar!
"Remember to say thank you!" "Gratitude is the best attitude!" "Give thanks with a grateful heart..." It might be very Canadian of us in general, but today is probably the only day we get to say 'Thank you!' too many times without anyone noticing. Canadians on the whole are known for our courtesy, and being … Continue reading Are you thankful?
I just read this disturbing article regarding a band teacher in BC: Delta private school band teacher suspended after telling student to "go kill yourself, it won't matter anyway" People say stupid things all the time. Sometimes there is more weight behind them than others. A teacher telling a kid they can go kill themselves; … Continue reading Words carry power, use them wisely
Do you bring clarity to your situation? We all speak in code. It just happens when we become familiar, feel accepted, and develop our own little culture. Each setting, if observed closely, has a language and a set of mannerisms, and that brings unwritten expectations of participants. The sooner you admit that you are part … Continue reading Clarify what you mean!
It's one of the banes of church leadership. But yes, it is everywhere. People using indirect tactics to communicate thoughts and emotions, but not verbalise honestly, usually to avoid conflict. Brushing people off. Muffled responses. Attention focused on only certain people. Fake apathy in dialogue. Not responding to messages. Pretending to be good, but really … Continue reading From one passive-aggressive to another