It's one of the banes of church leadership. But yes, it is everywhere. People using indirect tactics to communicate thoughts and emotions, but not verbalise honestly, usually to avoid conflict. Brushing people off. Muffled responses. Attention focused on only certain people. Fake apathy in dialogue. Not responding to messages. Pretending to be good, but really … Continue reading From one passive-aggressive to another
That's the classic fine print on the bottom of the box of many an electronic device! This came to mind as a speaker at a recent gathering had trouble with his microphone. Every few sentences the sound would disappear and he would have to make a joke about it. It grew uncomfortable until he finally … Continue reading Batteries Not Included
"If you don't mind my asking, how old are you?" This type of question used to cause me far more stress and identity defensiveness than it does now. Being the youngest born, there can be the attraction towards defending yourself for your piece of the pie. Smart enough, loud enough, opinion above the rest, etc. … Continue reading How old are you?
(A little departure from my usual posts, this is the meditation I am sharing tonight at Church of The Way to start Lent. Enjoy!) Why Ash Wednesday? Well, because it follows Shrove Tuesday of course! Mardi Gras, Fat Tuesday, Pancake Tuesday, whichever you prefer. That was the day you cleansed your household of any hindrances … Continue reading Why Ash Wednesday?
I have often said in the past that one of my favourite aspects of youth ministry is the idea of potential. Potential, not just because of the energy and the fact that they have many years ahead of them. Potential here is found in the hope they hold. There is a fresh view on an … Continue reading Youth Leaders Retreat!
"There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens" (Ecclesiastes 3:1) I was blessed to celebrate the ministry of a long term servant leader this Sunday. After many years of organizing, preparing, and helping others to succeed, she felt her time had come to a close. The beauty of … Continue reading A Time for Everything
What do you have planned for the next year? I may not have the whole year planned out, but I do know where a big chunk of it will be invested. I am going to be working with Church of the Way, here in Winnipeg, for the better part of the academic year. My role … Continue reading The Next Opportunity!
What does conversion look like in your organization? We all have them. There are the larger 'A-ha!' moments that we all love to experience. Those are easier to recognize and dissect. But the smaller moments of conversion are equally necessary, do not always rock the boat, and may have greater change impact for the future. … Continue reading Leadership directs the mindset
Last week was great for all the wonderful opportunities I had to walk with others in their leadership settings! An MBTI workshop with young volunteers (Which I blogged about last week), a board discerning vision going forward, and a church leadership group discussing values and mission. I love each of those scenarios for a few … Continue reading Thank you for Leadership workshops where I get to be the Jerk
Do you have poison on your team? Or is it a form of healthy opposition to make the system stronger? I have considered this problem for a long time. I hate gossip, so much of what I have seen in team dynamics gone bad is just the many faces and effects of gossip. Words are … Continue reading Do your words help or hurt your team?
What a great day of listening and learning together! I appreciate times like this where I get invited into the safe space of a team, allowed to walk with them and guide the discussion towards growth. The MBTI unlocks some closed doors and starts new conversations. A team, regardless of how long they have been together, or … Continue reading Thank you McIvor!
I had the privilege of joining some of the ministry leaders of Jubilee Church for a day at the cottage this past weekend, and I felt blessed for it! There is nothing quite like being in the beauty of creation with folks who desire to listen for clarity in their vision. For me it is … Continue reading Jubilee Retreat: Creating space to listen