I just read this disturbing article regarding a band teacher in BC: Delta private school band teacher suspended after telling student to "go kill yourself, it won't matter anyway" People say stupid things all the time. Sometimes there is more weight behind them than others. A teacher telling a kid they can go kill themselves; … Continue reading Words carry power, use them wisely
Do you bring clarity to your situation? We all speak in code. It just happens when we become familiar, feel accepted, and develop our own little culture. Each setting, if observed closely, has a language and a set of mannerisms, and that brings unwritten expectations of participants. The sooner you admit that you are part … Continue reading Clarify what you mean!
That's the classic fine print on the bottom of the box of many an electronic device! This came to mind as a speaker at a recent gathering had trouble with his microphone. Every few sentences the sound would disappear and he would have to make a joke about it. It grew uncomfortable until he finally … Continue reading Batteries Not Included
The workshop may have been small, but the sharing was deep! I had yet another opportunity to share my living better together workshop, discussing communication and relationship-building within families and communities. We had a little trouble getting word out, but once the right people were on the case everything moved nicely! Many thanks to those … Continue reading Thank you Little Grand!
"There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens" (Ecclesiastes 3:1) I was blessed to celebrate the ministry of a long term servant leader this Sunday. After many years of organizing, preparing, and helping others to succeed, she felt her time had come to a close. The beauty of … Continue reading A Time for Everything
A friend shared with me his love of knives, specifically, the legendary Buck knives. If you go to their website, buy a product, or just sign up for regular emails, you will get the 'family intro'. It is a promise of their integrity, pride in their product, and their claim to an outstanding warranty. What … Continue reading Is work like family?
If the suburbs teach us anything, it is that diversity does not work. Well, not diversity in it’s idealistic form that many discuss these days. I used to live in the suburbs... When I consider my old block on my street I would have to take that first statement back, from a completely literal standpoint. … Continue reading In Search of Diversity
I first of all want to thank the awesome group at Mile Two Discipleship School for welcoming me into their circle last! It was a pleasure to help in the area of self awareness and learning to lead from your own unique place in life. This involves the Myers-Briggs type material, but definitely goes beyond … Continue reading A Leader is not Necessarily a Commander
Conflict is a natural part of the human condition. What we do with it sometimes requires something beyond ourselves. The problem with how we approach conflict is that too often it is dressed in negative thought. When we only see conflict as an unnatural part of our existence, and one which only occurs in an … Continue reading How do you reach an agreement?
"I really hate ______________________________!" (Fill in the blank for yourself, and then continue reading.) I had a great conversation with one of my sons recently on the topic of hate. Hate is one of those words of great meaning that has become commonplace and overused. It is not a bad idea to review the words … Continue reading How much do you hate?
What does conversion look like in your organization? We all have them. There are the larger 'A-ha!' moments that we all love to experience. Those are easier to recognize and dissect. But the smaller moments of conversion are equally necessary, do not always rock the boat, and may have greater change impact for the future. … Continue reading Leadership directs the mindset
Last week was great for all the wonderful opportunities I had to walk with others in their leadership settings! An MBTI workshop with young volunteers (Which I blogged about last week), a board discerning vision going forward, and a church leadership group discussing values and mission. I love each of those scenarios for a few … Continue reading Thank you for Leadership workshops where I get to be the Jerk