Learning to Listen

Quick to listen. Slow to speak. Slow to anger. Those are the key words from one of my favourite Bible verses. James talks about not showing favoritism, doing right, and controlling your reactions. Those words speak to me everyday; especially when things seem out of control. Control is elusive. When we do not have it, … Continue reading Learning to Listen

Learning with Pauingassi

Thank you Pauingassi FN! I appreciate your hospitality, your welcome to me every time, and your willingness to try new things as we learn and grow together. So many good people to thank! Once again I did not offer my workshop the way I thought I would be. Instead, the invitation was put out to … Continue reading Learning with Pauingassi

Thanks for having me Little Grand Rapids!

Well, not everything went exactly as planned, but rarely does it in life. I came to talk about communication and conflict, but the conversations outside of the sessions will be what I will remember most. We all have so much to learn when it comes to communicating. It is not restricted to one place or … Continue reading Thanks for having me Little Grand Rapids!

Humble Communication

"Lord have mercy, Christ have mercy" I used to absolutely hate singing this song in church. It still makes me cringe. But for some reason I've been humming it a lot this Advent season. The song is based on a comparison Jesus makes between the postures of 2 people while praying. "Thanks for not making … Continue reading Humble Communication

Become Aware

"I am not here to speak to you from all my success stories or best moments. I share with you where I got it wrong." That was an introduction from one of my most memorable training sessions. The instructor was not one of my favourites, but much of what he said was the most memorable. … Continue reading Become Aware

Thank you Spartans!

Another great workshop with the Trinity Western University women's basketball team is in the books! To think, our time was nearly cut in half due to a delayed flight. But isn't that often how the best laid plans usually go? We have the perfect formula set in motion, and then all the variables of life … Continue reading Thank you Spartans!

Do you schedule time to rest?

"When's your day off?" In my experience, this is a common conversation with pastors. Other leaders experience it as well, but the self-managed world of most pastors makes it unique in their setting. Depending on who you were talking to, the question could be packed with meaning. Many pastors are on call throughout the week, … Continue reading Do you schedule time to rest?

Fear as a Motivator

That is a quote from Seth Godin's most recent podcast, and it is definitely worth a listen if you have not already. (Click here to go to Akimbo) Seth highlights how we teach people to juggle and ride a bike. His main point is that fear and shame are often the traditional go-to in our … Continue reading Fear as a Motivator

Stories from another generation

“It was always said out of love” I inadvertently invited myself to a closed invitation birthday party. It was not my fault, I was just shown the invite and my dad said it was happening. So I went. And there I was looking very much like the youngest person in the building, realizing that every … Continue reading Stories from another generation

New Year…Unstable to Onward?

Happy 2018! Have you broken all your resolutions yet? I looked at my first post of the new year 2017 and recalled how it was focused on a small light at the end of what seemed like a very long tunnel. I was hopeful, don't get me wrong, but I also felt the pain of … Continue reading New Year…Unstable to Onward?

Experience or Expertise?

A few months back I read a lengthy post on LinkedIn challenging the idea of 'expertise' in the area of LinkedIn. People were posting this on their profiles, proclaiming it in their statuses, and providing how-to's on the matter. I agreed with him. It is something that gets in my craw a little when it … Continue reading Experience or Expertise?

Happy Gratitude Day!

Technically, the day is pretty much done, but you're supposed to be thankful all the time, right? Last week I went out West to help my kinfolk with their website and the message of their mission (Mike & Irene Ritskes, check their first blog post here.)  Many good conversations came out of our time together, … Continue reading Happy Gratitude Day!