It's one of the banes of church leadership. But yes, it is everywhere. People using indirect tactics to communicate thoughts and emotions, but not verbalise honestly, usually to avoid conflict. Brushing people off. Muffled responses. Attention focused on only certain people. Fake apathy in dialogue. Not responding to messages. Pretending to be good, but really … Continue reading From one passive-aggressive to another
What inspires you? I had the opportunity over the past 2 days to be challenged and encouraged in a variety of ways, from 2 different sources. First, I was treated to tremendous stories of dedication and sacrifice. Those in mission to change lives, bring freedom to others, and relieve the pain of poverty. It is … Continue reading Gratitude, Silence, and Conviction
That's the classic fine print on the bottom of the box of many an electronic device! This came to mind as a speaker at a recent gathering had trouble with his microphone. Every few sentences the sound would disappear and he would have to make a joke about it. It grew uncomfortable until he finally … Continue reading Batteries Not Included
"If you don't mind my asking, how old are you?" This type of question used to cause me far more stress and identity defensiveness than it does now. Being the youngest born, there can be the attraction towards defending yourself for your piece of the pie. Smart enough, loud enough, opinion above the rest, etc. … Continue reading How old are you?
"You may have heard that I'm a bit of an a**hole, and I'm not denying it!" (Quote from a new general manager being introduced) This term is used often nowadays, both in lighthearted contexts and as a source of pride for people who suffer from 'contemptible behaviour'. (Source: English Language & Usage) I like that … Continue reading Do you suffer from ‘contemptible behaviour’?
"There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens" (Ecclesiastes 3:1) I was blessed to celebrate the ministry of a long term servant leader this Sunday. After many years of organizing, preparing, and helping others to succeed, she felt her time had come to a close. The beauty of … Continue reading A Time for Everything
You might. I asked this of a friend recently regarding a personal group I was working with, wondering if this role just might be essential in all areas of life. I hate being managed, it goes with my personality and leadership style, so I was a little sheepish when I asked. He liked the idea, … Continue reading Do you need a chairperson?
A friend shared with me his love of knives, specifically, the legendary Buck knives. If you go to their website, buy a product, or just sign up for regular emails, you will get the 'family intro'. It is a promise of their integrity, pride in their product, and their claim to an outstanding warranty. What … Continue reading Is work like family?
If the suburbs teach us anything, it is that diversity does not work. Well, not diversity in it’s idealistic form that many discuss these days. I used to live in the suburbs... When I consider my old block on my street I would have to take that first statement back, from a completely literal standpoint. … Continue reading In Search of Diversity
I first of all want to thank the awesome group at Mile Two Discipleship School for welcoming me into their circle last! It was a pleasure to help in the area of self awareness and learning to lead from your own unique place in life. This involves the Myers-Briggs type material, but definitely goes beyond … Continue reading A Leader is not Necessarily a Commander
Have you ever considered radio waves in your home? I am not trying to worry you, but they are everywhere. And they are not alone. There are slower moving waves you create in your kitchen that ripple right through your body. Every time you pick up your cell phone and put it next to your … Continue reading Are you making waves?
Conflict is a natural part of the human condition. What we do with it sometimes requires something beyond ourselves. The problem with how we approach conflict is that too often it is dressed in negative thought. When we only see conflict as an unnatural part of our existence, and one which only occurs in an … Continue reading How do you reach an agreement?