Clarify what you mean!

Do you bring clarity to your situation? We all speak in code. It just happens when we become familiar, feel accepted, and develop our own little culture. Each setting, if observed closely, has a language and a set of mannerisms, and that brings unwritten expectations of participants. The sooner you admit that you are part … Continue reading Clarify what you mean!

From one passive-aggressive to another

It's one of the banes of church leadership. But yes, it is everywhere. People using indirect tactics to communicate thoughts and emotions, but not verbalise honestly, usually to avoid conflict. Brushing people off. Muffled responses. Attention focused on only certain people. Fake apathy in dialogue. Not responding to messages. Pretending to be good, but really … Continue reading From one passive-aggressive to another

Living Better Together!

You may have noticed this title before. It's the name of the workshop I facilitated in 2 communities this past month. And I think it's pretty awesome, but I may be biased. As the tagline suggests, it's all about helping people develop healthy relationships within their families. I would extend that to all levels of … Continue reading Living Better Together!

Thank you Little Grand!

The workshop may have been small, but the sharing was deep! I had yet another opportunity to share my living better together workshop, discussing communication and relationship-building within families and communities. We had a little trouble getting word out, but once the right people were on the case everything moved nicely! Many thanks to those … Continue reading Thank you Little Grand!

Do you suffer from ‘contemptible behaviour’?

"You may have heard that I'm a bit of an a**hole, and I'm not denying it!" (Quote from a new general manager being introduced) This term is used often nowadays, both in lighthearted contexts and as a source of pride for people who suffer from 'contemptible behaviour'. (Source: English Language & Usage) I like that … Continue reading Do you suffer from ‘contemptible behaviour’?

Thank you Spartans!

Another great workshop with the Trinity Western University women's basketball team is in the books! To think, our time was nearly cut in half due to a delayed flight. But isn't that often how the best laid plans usually go? We have the perfect formula set in motion, and then all the variables of life … Continue reading Thank you Spartans!

In Search of Diversity

If the suburbs teach us anything, it is that diversity does not work. Well, not diversity in it’s idealistic form that many discuss these days. I used to live in the suburbs... When I consider my old block on my street I would have to take that first statement back, from a completely literal standpoint. … Continue reading In Search of Diversity

Are you making waves?

Have you ever considered radio waves in your home? I am not trying to worry you, but they are everywhere. And they are not alone. There are slower moving waves you create in your kitchen that ripple right through your body. Every time you pick up your cell phone and put it next to your … Continue reading Are you making waves?

How do you reach an agreement?

Conflict is a natural part of the human condition. What we do with it sometimes requires something beyond ourselves. The problem with how we approach conflict is that too often it is dressed in negative thought. When we only see conflict as an unnatural part of our existence, and one which only occurs in an … Continue reading How do you reach an agreement?

Change Your Work Culture

What is your culture of leadership? What does it look like to be on your team? One of the traps I found myself in as a leader was that of managing over motivating. It is easier than we might imagine to create an unhealthy work environment based on our drive to fulfil what we believe … Continue reading Change Your Work Culture

Getting a handle on conflict

This post comes out of a number of conversations I have witnessed recently. Conflict seems to be a natural or even default state of being in much public discourse. As a generalization, we just do not handle it well. (As strange as this may be for a last week of summer blog, I think it … Continue reading Getting a handle on conflict

How do you respond to unwarranted advice?

"Don't be sorry; just don't do it again!" How would you respond to this comment from a customer? A friend? A manager? A young worker at a local establishment was given the above advice from a disgruntled customer. There was a small error done during their service, and the honourable response seemed to be to … Continue reading How do you respond to unwarranted advice?