Conflict is a natural part of the human condition. What we do with it sometimes requires something beyond ourselves. The problem with how we approach conflict is that too often it is dressed in negative thought. When we only see conflict as an unnatural part of our existence, and one which only occurs in an … Continue reading How do you reach an agreement?
What is your culture of leadership? What does it look like to be on your team? One of the traps I found myself in as a leader was that of managing over motivating. It is easier than we might imagine to create an unhealthy work environment based on our drive to fulfil what we believe … Continue reading Change Your Work Culture
This post comes out of a number of conversations I have witnessed recently. Conflict seems to be a natural or even default state of being in much public discourse. As a generalization, we just do not handle it well. (As strange as this may be for a last week of summer blog, I think it … Continue reading Getting a handle on conflict
"Don't be sorry; just don't do it again!" How would you respond to this comment from a customer? A friend? A manager? A young worker at a local establishment was given the above advice from a disgruntled customer. There was a small error done during their service, and the honourable response seemed to be to … Continue reading How do you respond to unwarranted advice?
Last week was great for all the wonderful opportunities I had to walk with others in their leadership settings! An MBTI workshop with young volunteers (Which I blogged about last week), a board discerning vision going forward, and a church leadership group discussing values and mission. I love each of those scenarios for a few … Continue reading Thank you for Leadership workshops where I get to be the Jerk
I love the #BellLetsTalk initiative. It creates awareness to mental health issues, and destroys barriers created by ignorance and stigma. Unfortunately, there is a big push for that day, and then it fades. People shut up, listening is deafened, and awareness pervades. I know for myself, my family, and friends around me, there is much … Continue reading Let’s Talk…But don’t save it for one day
Do you have poison on your team? Or is it a form of healthy opposition to make the system stronger? I have considered this problem for a long time. I hate gossip, so much of what I have seen in team dynamics gone bad is just the many faces and effects of gossip. Words are … Continue reading Do your words help or hurt your team?
I had a great interaction at the coffee shop recently, all about the words we use for our feelings. The staff and I discussed our feelings while not knowing each other well. The trigger for me was one person stating, "I had a bad feeling." I simply asked, "What is a bad feeling? I feel … Continue reading Emotional clarity, even in public
I schedule and create meeting opportunities based on 3 of my core values in leadership. I say 'of', because I have more core values; they are simply beyond the realm of my workshops and coaching sessions. The 3 have an impact on all that I do, but they do not represent the people I love … Continue reading Show and Tell Your Values!
"Helping people find who they are, where they are" That's my motto, and that is what this week is all about. Right now I get to walk with a group of young adults as they discern the path ahead, both in their faith, and in vocational direction. Speaking to them about personality and identity is … Continue reading This week: Personality and Listening!
This picture is a slight exaggeration, but as with everything, it is a good expression of the statement 'nothing comes easy'. I had the opportunity to help my some of my family bring clarity to the store front of their mission. (Check them out: Haiti Friendship Centre) I love helping with clarity and how we can … Continue reading Websites, clarity, and Family time
I had the privilege of joining some of the ministry leaders of Jubilee Church for a day at the cottage this past weekend, and I felt blessed for it! There is nothing quite like being in the beauty of creation with folks who desire to listen for clarity in their vision. For me it is … Continue reading Jubilee Retreat: Creating space to listen