From one passive-aggressive to another

It's one of the banes of church leadership. But yes, it is everywhere. People using indirect tactics to communicate thoughts and emotions, but not verbalise honestly, usually to avoid conflict. Brushing people off. Muffled responses. Attention focused on only certain people. Fake apathy in dialogue. Not responding to messages. Pretending to be good, but really … Continue reading From one passive-aggressive to another

Do you need a chairperson?

You might. I asked this of a friend recently regarding a personal group I was working with, wondering if this role just might be essential in all areas of life. I hate being managed, it goes with my personality and leadership style, so I was a little sheepish when I asked. He liked the idea, … Continue reading Do you need a chairperson?

Bird crap on the window

How long do you let crap build up in your view? A friend of mine tells the story about the bird nest constantly getting built outside one of his main meeting rooms. The let it sit, and the bird crap begins to build up. First just a few people notice it. Then just like everything … Continue reading Bird crap on the window

Job Applications & Interviews

It is summer job hunting season. That means applications and job interviews. The topic has come up frequently around me lately, so here's my top 10 list. This is simply getting a foot in the door, and maybe getting that first crappy job to tell your kids about some day. We all need that experience. … Continue reading Job Applications & Interviews

Does everyone agree with you? #communication #understanding

“…right?” I used to frequently end my sentences with that modifier. My wife eventually told me to stop it. No one liked it and it was not really a question I was asking. It was just a way to get a response to a statement. Or more likely, to receive affirmation on what I wanted. … Continue reading Does everyone agree with you? #communication #understanding

Your smartphone does not help you #listen #communication

Active listening is important. I recently read a study on how people actually feel about smartphone use during meetings. (You can read it here: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/20140922000612-50578967-why-successful-people-never-bring-smartphones-into-meetings) Not just business meetings, but people sitting and talking to one another in a general attentive manner. Rather, where we would assume people are attentive. Across the board, and across … Continue reading Your smartphone does not help you #listen #communication