"You may have heard that I'm a bit of an a**hole, and I'm not denying it!" (Quote from a new general manager being introduced) This term is used often nowadays, both in lighthearted contexts and as a source of pride for people who suffer from 'contemptible behaviour'. (Source: English Language & Usage) I like that … Continue reading Do you suffer from ‘contemptible behaviour’?
Another great workshop with the Trinity Western University women's basketball team is in the books! To think, our time was nearly cut in half due to a delayed flight. But isn't that often how the best laid plans usually go? We have the perfect formula set in motion, and then all the variables of life … Continue reading Thank you Spartans!
If the suburbs teach us anything, it is that diversity does not work. Well, not diversity in it’s idealistic form that many discuss these days. I used to live in the suburbs... When I consider my old block on my street I would have to take that first statement back, from a completely literal standpoint. … Continue reading In Search of Diversity
Have you ever considered radio waves in your home? I am not trying to worry you, but they are everywhere. And they are not alone. There are slower moving waves you create in your kitchen that ripple right through your body. Every time you pick up your cell phone and put it next to your … Continue reading Are you making waves?
Conflict is a natural part of the human condition. What we do with it sometimes requires something beyond ourselves. The problem with how we approach conflict is that too often it is dressed in negative thought. When we only see conflict as an unnatural part of our existence, and one which only occurs in an … Continue reading How do you reach an agreement?
What is your culture of leadership? What does it look like to be on your team? One of the traps I found myself in as a leader was that of managing over motivating. It is easier than we might imagine to create an unhealthy work environment based on our drive to fulfil what we believe … Continue reading Change Your Work Culture
This post comes out of a number of conversations I have witnessed recently. Conflict seems to be a natural or even default state of being in much public discourse. As a generalization, we just do not handle it well. (As strange as this may be for a last week of summer blog, I think it … Continue reading Getting a handle on conflict
"Don't be sorry; just don't do it again!" How would you respond to this comment from a customer? A friend? A manager? A young worker at a local establishment was given the above advice from a disgruntled customer. There was a small error done during their service, and the honourable response seemed to be to … Continue reading How do you respond to unwarranted advice?
Last week was great for all the wonderful opportunities I had to walk with others in their leadership settings! An MBTI workshop with young volunteers (Which I blogged about last week), a board discerning vision going forward, and a church leadership group discussing values and mission. I love each of those scenarios for a few … Continue reading Thank you for Leadership workshops where I get to be the Jerk
I love the #BellLetsTalk initiative. It creates awareness to mental health issues, and destroys barriers created by ignorance and stigma. Unfortunately, there is a big push for that day, and then it fades. People shut up, listening is deafened, and awareness slows. I know for myself, my family, and friends around me, there is much … Continue reading Let’s Talk…But don’t save it for one day
Do you have poison on your team? Or is it a form of healthy opposition to make the system stronger? I have considered this problem for a long time. I hate gossip, so much of what I have seen in team dynamics gone bad is just the many faces and effects of gossip. Words are … Continue reading Do your words help or hurt your team?
I had a great interaction at the coffee shop recently, all about the words we use for our feelings. The staff and I discussed our feelings while not knowing each other well. The trigger for me was one person stating, "I had a bad feeling." I simply asked, "What is a bad feeling? I feel … Continue reading Emotional clarity, even in public